Navigating the Emotional Rollercoaster of Miscarriage, Still Birth, or Other Pregnancy Loss
Navigating the Emotional Rollercoaster of Miscarriage, Still Birth, or Other Pregnancy Loss
Suffering a miscarriage, stillbirth, or other pregnancy loss can be an incredibly painful and emotional experience. The grief and sadness that come with this kind of loss can be overwhelming, leaving many people feeling alone and helpless. As a therapist, I have seen many clients struggle with the emotional rollercoaster that comes with pregnancy loss. In my sessions, I focus on providing useful and actionable advice on how to navigate the complex emotions that come with this kind of loss.
Understand the Grieving Process
Grieving is a natural and necessary process that we all go through when we experience a loss. However, the grieving process can look different for everyone. Some people may feel intense emotions, while others may feel numb or disconnected. There is no right or wrong way to grieve, and it's important to give yourself permission to feel your emotions.
Acknowledge Your Feelings
It's important to acknowledge your feelings and not suppress them. Allow yourself to feel whatever comes up, whether it's anger, sadness, guilt, or any other emotion. It's okay to cry and let your emotions out, as this can help you process your feelings and move forward. In addition, consider keeping a journal to document your emotions and thoughts throughout this journey.
Seek Support
Talking to someone about your feelings can be a helpful way to process your emotions. Reach out to friends, family, or a therapist for support. They can offer you a safe space to express your emotions and provide you with guidance and tools to cope with your grief. Some organizations offer support groups for those who have experienced pregnancy loss, such as Empty Cradle, a nonprofit support group in the San Diego and Riverside County area.
Take Care of Yourself
Self-care is important during this time. Take time for yourself to rest, exercise, eat well, and engage in activities that bring you joy. It's important to prioritize your physical and emotional health, as it can have a positive impact on your overall well-being. Some people find comfort in meditation, mindfulness, or yoga.
Seek Professional Help
If you are struggling to cope with your emotions, seeking professional help can be beneficial. A therapist can provide you with the support and guidance you need to navigate this difficult time. They can help you develop coping strategies and provide you with a safe space to process your emotions.
Resources for Pregnancy Loss Support:
Here are some resources for pregnancy loss support:
American Pregnancy Association: offers information and support for pregnancy loss.
The Compassionate Friends: provides support for families who have experienced the death of a child.
National Share Pregnancy and Infant Loss Support: offers support for those who have experienced pregnancy loss, stillbirth, or infant loss.
Postpartum Support International: provides resources and support for those struggling with pregnancy loss and postpartum depression.
Pregnancy loss can be a difficult and emotional journey, but it's important to remember that you are not alone. Everyone grieves differently, and it's important to seek support and take care of yourself during this time. With the right tools and resources, you can navigate the emotional rollercoaster of pregnancy loss and move forward in your healing journey.
Sources:
American Pregnancy Association. (2023). Understanding and Grieving. https://americanpregnancy.org/getting-pregnant/pregnancy-complications/pregnancy-loss/
The Compassionate Friends. (2023). To the Newly Bereaved. https://www.compassionatefriends.org/find-support/to-the-newly-bereaved/
National Share Pregnancy and Infant Loss Support. (2023). Frequently Asked Questions. https://nationalshare.org/our-programs/
Postpartum Support International. (2023). Loss and Grief in Pregnancy and Postpartum. https://www.postpartum.net/get-help/loss-grief-in-pregnancy-postpartum/
Empty Cradle. (2023) https://www.emptycradle.org
Maureen McCartney, LMFT, PMH-C is a San Diego-based psychotherapist. Maureen has more than 15 years of experience providing counseling to individuals and couples, and she specializes in helping women and men throughout the state of California address the challenges of infertility, pregnancy loss, and perinatal and postpartum mental health issues.